Do let them know you care ~ something as simple as a card, or a bunch of flowers, lets them know they’re not alone, and that people are thinking of them.

Do be there to listen if I need to cry ~ nothing else is needed. Just saying ‘I’m sorry’ is enough. Holding me when I cry means the world.

Do understand if I can’t answer the phone right now, or if I don’t return your calls. I’m grieving, and I will call you, I just need time.

Do understand I have suffered a death in my family, and I may be in shock. Part of that may include going over and over what happened for a time … this will not go on for ever, so please listen while I need you.

Above all, please remember that this is the worst thing that ever happened to them. The word "miscarriage" is small and easy. But their baby's death is monolithic and awful. It's going to take them a while to figure out how to live with it.

Bear with them!

FROM infertileworld.co.uk